Thirty Years of Learning
By: Mary (Jaeger) Campbell-Shaw
If the next generation
would listen or understand, I would tell them what it took me more than
30 years to learn: Do not worry about what other people think.
Seek to please God in all you do and if He is pleased, ignore the others.
Stand up for what is right. Fight what is unjust. No, this
life is not fair, but we all need to take an educated stand. Set
aside your prejudices and realize that when it comes down to it we are
all alike in some way. There are "angels" and "jerks" of every
nationality. Eat healthy, exercise daily (yard work, walking, playing
with kids), and throw away the bathroom scale. Be neat and hygienic.
If others avoid you, or tease you, because of the way you look or dress,
it is their loss. Survive and succeed, that is your best revenge.
Do not be ashamed of the
mistakes you make. Remember, some divorces are truly for the good
of the children. Most of the time, you will learn more from your
failures even if it is only who your friends are. If you have children,
create a stable, loving home life. If you always have family to count
on, life is easier to deal with. Remember, good friends, true friends
are as good as family. If you are not blessed with a good family,
make good friends by being a good friend. Do not be afraid of being
alone; if you are in an abusive relationship, you are better off with me,
myself, and I.
You will look back on you
life with regrets: should of, if only, I wish . . . Do not
let the regrets stall you along the way. If there is something you
did wrong, correct what you can . . . and realize that may have been
what was meant to be. Hindsight is 20/20. It is easier to look
back and see why God had me make the decisions I did after I am further
down the road.
Find a Bible verse or a
poem that speaks to you, that tells you why we are here. Mine is
Emily Dickinson's: Not In Vain and this line, especially,
help one fainting robin Unto his nest again, I shall not live in vain.
Read the whole poem. I know that there is at least one person in
my life that can say because I was there, because I did what I had to do,
I made a difference.
Look at children.
If you have none of your own, observe closely and think back to your own
childhood (hopefully it was good), or the childhood of another. My
mother is a saint and an angel; I am much like her and I have always cared
for others, but it is my children . . . my son and daughter that
taught me the most about love. Keep a small part of the child alive
in your heart . . . that part that always wonders, that enjoys a
good animated movie, that part that likes to laugh, that part that looks
to the best in people, that part that sees the beauty in each rainbow and
butterfly, the part that can see pictures in the clouds. Stand up
for the children; they truly are our tomorrow.
Remember, the grass always
does look greener from a distance . . . get too close and you see
the weeds and dog poop. People put up false fronts. Try to
be different . . . live your life transparently. If you are
doing something you do not want anyone to know about, then by golly, it
is something you should not be doing in the first place . . . so
quit it. Morals do matter. Please elect leaders that seem to
have morals (we can all be fooled, but to vote for someone who obviously
has problems with honesty . . . who is the fool).
Mary (Jaeger) Campbell-Shaw 2002
Contact Mary: firstname.lastname@example.org